"Paul Gordon gives his clients a remarkable sense of safety, comfort and holding. His presence and way of being have allowed me - with surprising quickness - to consistently reach emotional places and understanding which had otherwise been inaccessible."
Ruth Masilick, Psy. D.
Psychoanalysis and Clinical Psychology
I am not a psychotherapist. On the other hand, many clients come to see me whose primary issue is a sense of contraction, a feeling of tightness or thickness, an emotional rigidity they can sense in their bodies. Our bodies respond to pain and the expectation of pain in the same way – whether that pain is physical, emotional or spiritual. We tighten up, we pull away and stop moving; we become defensive and evasive. Twist an ankle, or break a heart, a limp is a limp.
- Deeply relaxes chronic tension
- Change occurs at your body’s natural rate
Often the response to emotional pain is to create a strategy that denies we have been hurt. Some of us become aggressive, others act out by shopping, drinking, overworking, withdrawing. There are as many strategies as there are people.
Just as I try to contact the injured part of a person with a twisted ankle, I try to contact the injured emotional self. We all know what that self looks like. Our partner walks into a room and without a word, we see something is wrong. We can tell because of how they move. The sensation you see is something I can feel. By contacting the protective pattern gently (see the section on The Biodynamic Perspective for more information), the rigidification, the fear, can begin to release.
It has been said that psychological trauma is not in the mind; it is in the nervous system, the body. By working with your body’s adaptations, we are able to reach the places that Dr. Maisel calls inaccessible. We never push or demand for you to change, we never move faster than your body allows.